Wrapped in Warmth

First off.  I love my neighbors.  They are right upstairs and the gorgeous momma home schools her seven children.  SEVEN!  Ah, she’s so inspiring to me.  Boston would honestly live up there if he could and forget all about his boring little family downstairs in an instant.  I asked him the other day if he wanted to live with his friends and he said, “Well ya… wouldn’t you?”  I followed up by asking him who would get him ready for bed and help him get in his jammies and he said, “I’d just have Seth help me.  He’s really nice”.  HA!  Well great.  Replaced like that.  Ari and Miah, oldest of the seven, took the photos in this amazing sesh.  Aren’t they fabulous?  They’re building their photography business right now and if you live in Utah County and are looking for something affordable, these girls do it all.  If you’re interested email me and I’ll get you in touch with them!

Bag: c/o Joe Totes | boots: Target | leggings: Franchesca’s (thick and lined with fleece, seriously you need some) | Boyfriend Cardi: Old Navy  Graphic Tee: Old Navy | Scarf: Old Navy

Over the past few months I’ve really struggled with this blog and the direction I want to take it.  I’ve felt that it’s become a little… oh… how would I describe it.  Worldly?  Vain maybe?  All I talk about are pretty clothes and new products and ways to put on your makeup.  Even though all these posts and articles I’ve been writing are for you, to hopefully empower you and give you fresh new ideas, at the end of the night I feel so selfish.  It’s been driving me absolutely crazy.  I’m not that girl.  If you knew me in real life you’d know that I’m a total nerd who wears yoga pants all day and jams to Taylor Swift with a spoon as her two kids laugh hysterically at her.  I have been given these amazing opportunities to model and style clothing from great companies that I truly love, to write as a beauty expert (Ha!) for Babble and to teach women all over the world how to take better care of their hair.  I’ve sort of taken these blessings and opportunities and have run with them.  In the process of doing so I feel like I’ve sort of lost myself.  I’ve decided that if I’m going to continue writing about pretty clothes and sharing my style with all of you, there’s going to have to be more substance.  There is so much more to me than pretty clothes and great hair, lol!  So here goes.  Some substance.

Over the past few weeks I’ve been reading up on pornography and the devastating effects it has on marriages, families and the rising generation.  It honestly makes me so sick to think that one day my little boy is going to be subjected to that filth whether by accident or from a friend.  It terrifies me.  I pray every night that Boston will be able to feel the spirit urge him to turn it off or to look away.  If the world is as disgusting as it is now, can you image what it’s going to be like in ten years?  The day for passive parenting is over.  If we are not doing everything we can to teach our little ones right from wrong, to teach them how to stand up for themselves and to teach them about the redeeming love of our Savior, they’re going to fail.  Last night I was reading an article in the April 2013 Ensign titled The Words We Speak.  It pulled at my heart and inspired me to try harder to be a better example to my two babies.  Rosemary Wixom said, “To speak to a child’s heart, we must know a child’s needs.  If we pray to know those needs, the very words we say may have the power to reach into their hearts.  Our efforts are magnified when we see the direction of the Holy Ghost.  The Lord said: “Speak the thoughts that I shall put into your hearts… for it shall be given you in the very hour, yea, the very moment, what ye shall say.”  When I read this I thought, well crap!  Have I missed a teaching opportunity?  Have I missed many teaching opportunities?  How many times have we forgotten to pray or to teach our little ones about God?  How many times have I snapped out of frustration at my three year old and disturbed the spirit in our home?  If I am not in tune with the spirit, I won’t know when or what to teach my children when they need it the most.  Wixom said, “Unfortunately, the distractions of this world prevent many children from hearing encouraging words that could shape their view of themselves”.  And might I add, shape their faith

I am so distracted every day by my ever growing to-do list.  Am I listening to my children?  Am I really playing with them with the sole purpose of teaching them and building their faith?  I fear there have been too many times when I missed faith promoting experiences because my mind and thoughts were elsewhere.  So I’m making a commitment, and I’d love for you to join me, to have the spirit with me at all times so that I might know and speak the thoughts that are put into my heart by my loving Father in Heaven.  And in the end, if my children end up traveling a different path, I will know with a surety that I did everything I could to teach them of their Savior’s love.  It is my hope that one day all wayward children will remember the precious moments where they felt wrapped in the warmth of their Savior’s love and will come back to believing and living for something greater than themselves.  But for today  I’m going to do all I can to build my children’s faith, to capitalize on teaching moments and to have the spirit in our home and hope and pray that it’s enough.

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  1. I love this post!! Very encouraging and empowering. Parenting can be so hard at times. I have good days and bad days and I pray the GRACE of God covers the bad ones. I pray that God would help me to walk according to the Spirit and not my flesh and to give me the words to speak to my children like you. I have read several articles about pornography lately as well. I have two boys and it is one of my biggest fears. Thank you for posting!!

  2. 1. Love the photos. I need their info please.
    2. Love your momma’s comments
    3. Love your shirt… can I buy it from you? Kiddong!.. okay, not really.
    4. Love this post. And I am taking the challenge w you. I have a habit of gossiping a bit when I am upset. What example am I to my own daughter? Will she think that is what women do and that it is ok??? I’ve gotten better but I have a long ways to go.
    5. Not like you need any parenting tips but I have loved the “Armour Your Children” daily devotionals by MOMemenity. At least it helps ME as a mom have the spirit with me and I need all the help I can muster

  3. Proudest Mom Ever! Me, Abby’s Mom! I have been thinking lately how hilarious it is that my daughter is this beauty, cloth, hair writer and I don’t care much about any of these topics. (I do try to be presentable) Where did all of this come from? She has an interesting gift. But most of all she has an even more amazing spirit and I am so proud of her for continually trying to balance it all out. I have perfect faith in you Abbs. I Love my awesome daughter!!!

  4. Thank you so much for your honesty & for sharing your desire to make this blog full of substance. I’ve been challenged in the same way about my blog too – I pray we can both seek God and He will direct the future of our blogs. Oh and I’ve added you as a favourite on my blog, feel free to check it out 🙂

  5. You and I must have the same posts popping up in our newsfeeds. This world has certainly become an ugly place and I dread some of the conversations I’m going to have to have with my kiddos to keep them as safe and protected as possible. But at the end of the day I just have to do my best and give it over to Him.

  6. Thank you for this! I have never commented on your blog before but a lot of those same thoughts have been entering my mind a lot lately. I have been feeling weighted down, not knowing if I have taught well enough or if I have missed opportunities. It frightens me also. But the scripture that you said about the Lord telling us to say when we need to say it, it gave me some comfort. I wanted to let you know that. So thank you! I too hope that I haven’t missed those teaching opportunities with my children and hope to have the spirit with me and in my home. I too am going to try better to do those small and simple things everyday to have the spirit with me so that I can teach my children to the best of my ability what is right from wrong and pray that they will have faith and pray that they will make good choices.

  7. Abby, you’re sooooo adorable! And I love it when you have your kids in the pics too! They’re so photogenic! Loving the deep thoughts too. Parenting is such a heavy matter that often gets lost in the daily tantrums and food fights. Thanks for the reminder!

  8. I love this, thanks for sharing!! I will be having a little girl in February, and the thought of her straying scares me. But, like you said… If we teach them and do all that we can, then we have done our part!

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